3 Steps to Release Anger and Resentment

Are you carrying around anger and resentment? Keeping those emotions inside of you can make you unhappy, frustrated, feel helpless and they can actually make you feel physically ill. I have 3 steps to release anger and resentment. 

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First thing to do is to breathe. You are releasing this for you and not anyone else. The other person is not affected about how bad you feel or how you are hurting. Releasing is all about you and how you feel. When you let anger and resentment go, you will feel better, in more control, be able to find your inner joy again and so much more!

3 Steps to Releasing Anger and Resentment

1. Forgive

Forgiveness is not about the other person it is about you. When you can let go and forgive it releases you from the anger, the tie to the other person and from all of that angst. The forgiveness process is about letting go and taking care of yourself.


2. Write a Letter

Write a letter that you will never send. Begin each sentence with “I am angry that…”. Do this over and over until you have no more sentences that can start with “I am angry that”. For some it may just be a page and for others more. You can't do this wrong. By writing the sentences this way you release the emotion that is holding you back.

3. Look for the Gold

In every life event, there is gold to be found, a life lesson. After you have done steps one and two, think back to the event and ask yourself what you learned from this experience that is positive. How did it make you stronger or help you grow. This takes the event (that you have now forgiven and released the emotion from) and looks at the positive side. There is something to be learned in every event.

After you have done the 3 steps, if the anger and resentment rises again, ask yourself which step you need to do again. As with any healing process, it is like an onion. You heal one layer at a time and you may need to go back a few times to heal the other layers. When this happens it is not a step backwards but another step towards totally healing it.


+Michelle DeBerge

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About the Author Michelle DeBerge

Michelle has over 20 years experience in coaching, leadership and motivation. She is passionate about creating a community for growth, healing and support. She has been recognized for her work both locally and nationally. She inspires audiences and clients with her down to earth stories of struggle and growth. She believes that being authentic has been the key to her success.

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