Paper cuts are not usually life threatening. They are shallow small slivers cut into the skin by the sharp edges of paper. In the moment a brief stab of pain but in a few moments almost forgotten.

That is until we squeeze lemon with that finger or bump it into something. We forget we have it until it is knocked or touched in some way. Paper Cuts only seem like a minor irritation to us.

No, that would be very very wrong!

If you got little paper cuts all day, say you accumulated 50,000 paper cuts you might be in extreme pain, on deaths door or in the morgue as we speak.

One paper cut = small irritation    50,000 paper cuts = death

Paper cuts destroy relationships and kill the hear connection and spirit. Not the sole paper cut but the 50,000. Imagine that.

Every harsh word or unkind thing that you do is a paper cut to the other person. If you knew that your paper cut that you are doing to them could cause them death would you stop? Would you think twice before doing it?

Paper Cuts: The Relationship Killer.

The next time you are upset, angry or resentful… STOP…. Take a breath and think if this is what you want to say. Ask yourself: “Is this for the best interest for my loved one or am I lashing out?”

Paper Cuts seem innocuous at the surface but the lingering effects can destroy relationships and create separation. The other person may not even share that they feel hurt, brushed off, angry or resentful but they will pull away a little so they don’t get cut again.

Many times we may not notice when we are creating paper cuts. It can come out in the form of sarcasm, frustration, demands and so many other ways where they leak out. Paper cuts are quick and sharp, may times they may not be noticed until later and the pain lingers. Stopping the paper cuts, the relationship killer can be done.

lifecoach-usa  Here are a few questions for you to ponder that may impact your next interaction with a loved one:

1. What will you do different?

2. Will this metaphor make an impact in how you treat others?

3. What are you doing to heal the paper cuts others have put on you?

About the Author

Michelle has over 20 years experience in coaching, leadership and motivation. She is passionate about creating a community for growth, healing and support. She has been recognized for her work both locally and nationally. She inspires audiences and clients with her down to earth stories of struggle and growth. She believes that being authentic has been the key to her success.

  • Lovely analogy to hurtful words and their ill effects on relationships. Quite a string way to remember. Its very hard to get over deeper cuts , we may forgive but sometimes we cant forget , one must always watch they say espp to loved ones as words once spoken are like arrows that land right on target and burn…

  • Uh, I thought I was reading an article about paper cuts, not relationships… It took quite a turn there in the middle!

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