In this clip Peppermint Patty wonders out loud: “Why am I talking to you Charlie Brown? I should be talking to someone who is use to getting Valentines Day Cards.” Ouch. As Valentines Day approaches we are bombarded with images of happy couples in love, tons of flowers, chocolate, strawberries, magical love stories and so much more. So how do you have a Happy Valentine’s Day if you are single?Everyone at some point whether they believe that Valentines Day is a good holiday or not, wants to be acknowledged and loved on that day when the whole world is about candy hearts, cards and flowers. Personally Valentine’s Day was never really important to me whether I was in a relationship or not. What was important to me was the feeling of being special and acknowledged.

Eight years ago I started sending myself flowers for all major holidays. I would write a card that would arrive with the flowers. In that card I would tell myself how much I loved myself, how proud I was of myself and what I thought about how I showed up in the world. I did this as part of my healing process as I was leaving a very abusive relationship and redesigning my life. I would sign the card: “Your anonymous love”. I would proudly put the  flowers on the table every occasion. Friends would see the card and I never told my secret.

When the flowers would come, at first I would feel a bit silly. Yet as I opened the card and read how I loved myself, it felt good. I did this for years until I really was able to love myself fully and not need the flowers anymore. It was a lesson in self love that I so desperately needed to learn and finally did. So instead of feeling left out, unloveable or alone, do something for yourself this year that allows you to love you.

Valentines Day Single – 5 Tips to be Happy

1. write yourself a love letter

2. do something fun with friends that creates heart connection

3.  treat yourself to something special

4. make yourself a nice dinner and watch a funny movie

5. take a look back at how far you have come and acknowledge yourself for that

True love starts with loving yourself. If you can not love yourself, how can you fully love someone else? Don’t let one day derail you from knowing that you are lovable, perfect the way you are and important. Take the time to take care of you!

About the Author

Michelle has over 20 years experience in coaching, leadership and motivation. She is passionate about creating a community for growth, healing and support. She has been recognized for her work both locally and nationally. She inspires audiences and clients with her down to earth stories of struggle and growth. She believes that being authentic has been the key to her success.

  • Hi Michelle,

    All great items on the list to do. One that I think most people should do is to treat yourself to something nice. A nice lunch that you normally wouldn’t buy or even maybe a new gadget of some sort.. go shopping and what have you. Just because it’s national singles day, it’s not always a bad thing!

  • Love this post! I love flowers – and the idea of sending them to myself sounds super satisfying. I’m even thinking of joining a flower of the month club so I can be “surprised” when they arrive!

  • I love your concept. I don’t particularly endulge in these types of holidays. I feel if you want to show me you love me do it whenever you want or feel the need to. You should always love yourself first because if you don’t how can you love someone else. Great concepts you shared in this post. 🙂

  • Nice post, Michelle. I’m fortunate enough to have a friend who is going to take me out to dinner tomorrow for Valentine’s Day. But I’ve never fretted about the holiday. I don’t feel left out if someone doesn’t make it special for me. It’s just another day. 😉 I do appreciate your tips, though. I love the fact that you send yourself flowers with a love note. That’s very sweet. Peace

  • I always tell people, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romantic love. I give little treats and cards to many of the important people in my life that day, just because I’m a sucker for a holiday! But I love your ideas about giving some of that love back to yourself too. We often forget to do that.

  • Michelle,

    I like your V day practice…neat 😉 The world – and people in it – treat us based on our view of self. Love yourself, and people will love you. Great matches will show up.

    I attracted a great match by spending 2 years on my own. I needed to clear out blocks and love myself more before my fiancee could show up.

    Awesome tips. Thanks and Happy Valentine’s Day!

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